Why Men Change After a Few Months . . .
And how to get his BEST back!
By Brian D. Ridgway
Why is it that during the first months of a new relationship men are so amazing . . . and then it all suddenly stops?
At first, he's sending 20 passionate texts each day . . . He's the first one to say start a conversation . . . He's taking her places, buying flowers, touching her hair and saying how beautiful she is . . . He desires her, and she can see the spark in his eyes when he whispers "I love you" . . .
Why is it that during the first months of a new relationship men are so amazing . . . and then it all suddenly stops?
At first, he's sending 20 passionate texts each day . . . He's the first one to say start a conversation . . .
He's taking her places, buying flowers, touching her hair and saying how beautiful she is . . .
He desires her, and she can see the spark in his eyes when he whispers "I love you" . . .
The fact that men lose interest has nothing to do with a woman's appearance . . . the root cause is much deeper than that.
But after a few months, maybe a year or two, none of this is true anymore.
What's Going On?!
Why do 20 passionate texts turn into 5 boring ones? Why is it that suddenly she's the one initiating conversations and she rarely hears him saying "I love you" without a reason?
And why are exciting conversations, romantic nights, long walks, all the surprises and gifts no longer part of her "normal life" again? Why does he make her feel like she became invisible in their relationship or marriage?
I believe most women ask themselves these questions at some point in their lives. And perhaps many of them have experienced it more than once.
Are men really like little kids who are fascinated with a new toy but after some time they get bored and throw it into the corner?
It's easy to get to such a conclusion - but it's not true.
Let's have a quick look at what happens when we meet a new potential partner.
What's Going On?!
Why do 20 passionate texts turn into 5 boring ones? Why is it that suddenly she's the one initiating conversations and she rarely hears him saying "I love you" without a reason?
And why are exciting conversations, romantic nights, long walks, all the surprises and gifts no longer part of her "normal life" again?
Why does he make her feel like she became invisible in their relationship or marriage?
I believe most women ask themselves these questions at some point in their lives. And perhaps many of them have experienced it more than once.
Are men really like little kids who are fascinated with a new toy but after some time they get bored and throw it into the corner?
It's easy to get to such a conclusion ? but it's not true.
Let's have a quick look at what happens when we meet a new potential partner.
The Trap of Relationships
When we meet that person, something makes us attracted to them, and we want them to feel the same. So what do we do?
We put our best foot forward. And they do the same.
All the emotions, hormones and feelings give us the power to hide our "dark sides" and appear as if we are entirely different persons. To put it straight - we pretend to be someone else.
So yes, we're putting our best foot forward . . .
And in the background happens something that we're not aware of . . . something that impacts ALL our relationships. We're slowly spreading our invisible claws around our new partner . . . and after a few weeks, we slowly start sinking them into their back. Grabbing and clutching.
And they do the same with us.
The claws represent our "dark side" - our deepest issues, emotions, feelings, and beliefs, often unconscious ones. So when we ram the claws in, two things happen.
First, we start unconsciously and unwillingly hurting our partner, and in response, they ram their claws deeper into our back. Second, neither they nor we can escape from this relationship easily, because of the claws in our backs.
When we try to do it, it hurts like crazy.
The claws can be your unconscious reactions . . . some words you say . . . questions you ask . . . even the way you look at your man, comment on his behavior and many other things.
It's something your man, also unconsciously, perceives as a threat to his feeling of worthiness, to his need to be accepted, and to his safety.
So what does he do?
He Turns On His Defense Mechanism
Like most men, he's programmed to shut down his feelings, keep quiet and become cold and distant. It's his "safety mechanism" that he inherited after his dad, who also had no idea how to deal with such situations.
And don't get me wrong - I'm not saying it's all your fault.
Quite the opposite - I'm giving you an opportunity to accept this insight, take 100% responsibility, take care of your "claws" . . . And perhaps, start experiencing a profound and lasting change in your relationship!
When a woman dissolves her "claws", she's not hurting her man anymore . . . and in response, he isn't hurting her as well. What's more, when he realizes that "the danger" is gone - he starts looking at her differently.
The barrier he built is gone and his "old" feelings for her are back. His claws become weaker, and they start dropping on the floor, one by one. He reflects the change he sees in HER!
So the lesson here is that you can't change others unless you change yourself.
Remember what Gandhi said?
"Be the change you want to see in the world."
This applies 100% to your relationships. So I encourage every conscious woman to take action and start "trimming down" their claws. Because this is the key to finally enjoying the magical relationship they deserve. Which is easier to achieve than most people think, despite what many relationship gurus say.
Because to achieve it, there's no need to learn any new things. It's all about getting to the root of our "claws" and dissolving them once and for all. Which is possible to do by doing a simple practice a few minutes per day . . .
And in some cases - this practice can create a big change in our relationships in less than 30 days. As always, I can help you get through it as quickly and effortlessly as humanly possible.
The Trap of Relationships
When we meet that person, something makes us attracted to them, and we want them to feel the same. So what do we do?
We put our best foot forward. And they do the same.
All the emotions, hormones and feelings give us the power to hide our "dark sides" and appear as if we are entirely different persons. To put it straight - we pretend to be someone else.
So yes, we're putting our best foot forward . . .
And in the background happens something that we're not aware of . . . something that impacts ALL our relationships. We're slowly spreading our invisible claws around our new partner . . . and after a few weeks, we slowly start sinking them into their back. Grabbing and clutching.
And they do the same with us.
The claws represent our "dark side" - our deepest issues, emotions, feelings, and beliefs, often unconscious ones. So when we ram the claws in, two things happen.
First, we start unconsciously and unwillingly hurting our partner, and in response, they ram their claws deeper into our back.
Second, neither they nor we can escape from this relationship easily, because of the claws in our backs.
When we try to do it, it hurts like crazy.
The claws can be your unconscious reactions . . . some words you say . . . questions you ask . . . even the way you look at your man, comment on his behavior and many other things.
It's something your man, also unconsciously, perceives as a threat to his feeling of worthiness, to his need to be accepted, and to his safety.
So what does he do?
He Turns On His Defense Mechanism
Like most men, he's programmed to shut down his feelings, keep quiet and become cold and distant.
It's his "safety mechanism" that he inherited after his dad, who also had no idea how to deal with such situations.
And don't get me wrong - I'm not saying it's all your fault.
Quite the opposite - I'm giving you an opportunity to accept this insight, take 100% responsibility, take care of your "claws" . . .
And perhaps, start experiencing a profound and lasting change in your relationship!
When a woman dissolves her "claws", she's not hurting her man anymore . . . and in response, he isn't hurting her as well.
What's more, when he realizes that "the danger" is gone - he starts looking at her differently.
The barrier he built is gone and his "old" feelings for her are back. His claws become weaker, and they start dropping on the floor, one by one.
He reflects the change he sees in HER!
So the lesson here is that you can't change others unless you change yourself.
Remember what Gandhi said?
"Be the change you want to see in the world."
This applies 100% to your relationships. So I encourage every conscious woman to take action and start "trimming down" their claws.
Because this is the key to finally enjoying the magical relationship they deserve.
Which is easier to achieve than most people think, despite what many relationship gurus say.
Because to achieve it, there's no need to learn any new things. It's all about getting to the root of our "claws" and dissolving them once and for all.
Which is possible to do by doing a simple practice a few minutes per day . . .
And in some cases - this practice can create a big change in our relationships in less than 30 days.
As always, I can help you get through it as quickly and effortlessly as humanly possible.
Stop Living in Misery!
I'm Brian D. Ridgway - #1 international bestselling author and international speaker.
With my discoveries, I helped over 120,000 people from 84 countries to heal their relationships and thrive in all aspects of their lives.
Brian developed unique techniques that helped him and over 120,000 people to heal their relationships and thrive in all aspects of their lives.